"Hi, boss, I wonder when you'd like to meet with the Human Resources Manager? You said 10:00. Okay then, I'll set the appointment for you."
Well.....
Technically, the boss (who was Head of Mission) could have - and did - forego - the daily senior staff meeting at 08.30, as that was, technically, the "Ops" - operations - meeting, headed, and chaired, by the Head of Ops (No 3 in the Mission, after HOM and DHOM).
I was the political adviser/counsellor, also a senior staff position.
However, being hit - not occasionally, but reasonably regularly - with important stuff I had to deal with at 23.40 (email from aforementioned boss, who never appeared in an office prior to 10.00, and was always late - always, but always, always - late (by at least 20 minutes), without apology, or notice, and worse, then, those meetings invariably ran over time, by at least an hour) for the senior staff meetings - held twice weekly - which this person had to chair - really irked me.
Not least as I privately suspected that this wasn't really necessary, but was, rather, a disorganised management off loading stuff on staff in order, I suspect, to retain the appearance of a semblance of control and to try to keep people unbalanced, in what was - at the very least - a dangerous, difficult, deeply unstable, and profoundly corrupt country; the day job was quite sufficiently demanding and difficult without this added unsettling (and entirely unnecessary) nonsense.
Yes, it was a very unstable and delinquent part of the world; however, I have also spent the best part of two years (also with the EU, also as a political adviser/counsellor) in Afghanistan, which was at least as unstable, and dangerous, and deadly, but, while serving there, - with a few, rare, yet very necessary and understandable exceptions - I was rarely hit with 23.40 emails requiring immediate and all night attention prior to delivering briefings on that subject matter the following morning at 08.30.
So yes: My view now is that while occasional emergencies are understandable, (and, of course, require immediate and absolute attention), not every crisis is an emergency, and that bosses need to understand, recognise and respect, personal time, and private time, and space, and not seek to encroach upon that, except in occasions of most dire need.