Rather than run down what each option looked like and performed like I will sum it up by saying that after all of that I came to the conclusion that the best performance:appearance ratio came setting the resolution to 1600x900, textures medium, shadows med, shadow lights med, light shafts on, vsync on, dangling object limit on, rain effects or whatever its called on, cinematic dof on, decals medium and everything else off.
This keeps it playable outdoors during fights at around 25 fps. Inside its more like 40-50. Turning off light shafts gave me a whopping 1 fps difference, and i like the way it looks.
Thank you so so much.