Well, as it turns out..... I wasn't waiting long enough for the machine to chime..... so it boots fine and shows 3.19ghz. However, I think the processor/memory riser card is defective as no matter whether it's the new procs or the originals, it shows some red lights showing bad memory DIMMs so I think I gotta take it to the apple store. Hopefully since it was a refurb, they won't bitch about my little plastic connectors being broken off...... wish me luck.
You should be aware that the sockets provide direct access to the memory slots. So besides the chance of faulty RAM some pins in your sockets could be damaged. Apple may take this a bit ungracious.
Here you see a block diagram how memory is directly connected to the CPU sockets. So if a few socket pins get disabled you can end up with malfunctioning RAM.
This how bad pins look. Some times they are recoverable with a needle and a magnifying glas. There are 1366 of the little buggers per CPU and no clamp to protect them. Fat chance to bend 'em.
These are from Anand's article. They seem to be unrepairable. Sometimes they just get out of shape and you can prod them back.