FINALLY!
After trying all weekend to get this going, I finally had success, but with a catch.
My original iPhone XR was purchased directly from Apple, paid in full as a T-Mobile phone. Phone came with a T-Mobile SIM card. Every time they went to activate my EID, there system kept coming back saying that it was unsupported. Even tried with a new SIM card, same thing?
Fast forward to this morning, I said screw it. Went to T-Mobile and purchased another iPhone XR Product Red 128GB direct from the source. Started a chat with customer support, gave the gentlemen my EID and phone number, he kinda went back and forth about eSim not active yet, etc. He said it wasn't possible on a post paid account. I said, well, you know, lets try, if it doesn't work, we can go back to my physical sim. He sent the text, I gave him the pin, within 30 seconds I got a text saying my SIM was changed, went to settings, cellular, add plan, entered the address from above, and bam, done! eSim active, my T-Mobile line set as primary, popped in my Verizon work sim, set to secondary.
Still don't know what was up with my original Apple purchased phone? Luckily I was able to sell it this afternoon for $25 less than what I paid for it. Very weird indeed... But, I'm happy!