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GayWay - the gay and lesbian discussion (aka. Any Gays here?)
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scem0 said:whine all you want, it's healthy.
_Emerson
It is, but it s totally not me. Maybe I need to, then.
iGary said:I'm not going anywhere, as he suggested, but we'll definitely be talking about this more. It's not my fault he took this job, or leaves at 6 in the morning and gets home at 10 at night. I can see it making him miserable.
We've been together almost 6 years.
I guess I am just in a funk lately.
Dad died.
Grandmom two weeks later.
Surgery that will keep me from running until spring....
Just feel like alot of the things that keep me going in life are gone.
Mainly, I'm having a "good" time feeling sorry for myself. I need to snap out of it.
OK, now everyone strip and post pictures so we can get banned.
Hey iGary. Sorry to hear about the home situation. I hope you and Rob manage to sort things out. I'm sure you know what needs to be done, but knowing is of course much easier than doing.
You guys will be in my thoughts. I hope you manage to come through stronger than before.
How's your back doing btw? (and your cutie sailorboi assistant?
)As for stripping and posting pictures, i think i'll pass, though of course others should feel free to
First of all, having a break and going to NYC would really be a good idea. You'd have the chance of spending some time together without having to think of work and finances and all the other s*** time-offs are supposed to clear out of your mind (and hopefully out of Rob's). Plus, seeing scem0 would really do you both a lot of goodiGary said:
.If things get any worse, finding a therapist would definitely be necessary. And if he really cares about your relationship (which I assume he does), he'll make room in his agenda for a few sessions (which can't possibly last more than an hour each).
What he said last night was neither fair nor true at all, which can really mean one thing: he is stressed out.
I think he is trying to tell you something, but is afraid to say it because he cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you.
And by going to councelling both of you would be forced to say out loud and face the issues that are separating you two.
That's all I had to say and I hope that the last part made sense
.Hey, what are online friends foriGary said:
? They gotta be supportive, right?
iGary said:
Yes- sounds like you need to get out. Go see scem0- make him do handstands in a speedo for you. I know that would make me feel better.
hah, I haven't worn a speedo since I was 13 and I only did it because divers have to.
I'll gladly do handstands for any of you though.
_Emerson
I'll gladly do handstands for any of you though
._Emerson
Zaid said:Hey iGary. Sorry to hear about the home situation. I hope you and Rob manage to sort things out. I'm sure you know what needs to be done, but knowing is of course much easier than doing.
You guys will be in my thoughts. I hope you manage to come through stronger than before.
How's your back doing btw? (and your cutie sailorboi assistant?
As for stripping and posting pictures, i think i'll pass, though of course others should feel free to
My back is getting better - day by day, but I'm depressingly frustrated that I am not running. In fact it's breaking my heart in two. I ususally run 6-8 marathons a year, 30-40 miles a week. Marathoning is my rock. It holds me together, keeps me goal oriented and focused. It's as if they took a piece of me out with that bad disc. The doctor said depression in athletes after a surgery like this is quite common. As a result I'm on Effexor and the occasional Xanax (I started having panic attacks in the recovery room - also common) till I get myself together.
I'm sure Rob and I will be fine - at least I hope we will be. My Dad's death, along with my grandmother's passing have really been hard for me, and today, well it's just a rough day. Rob came home to me laying on the couch in a sobbing ball the other night and made it all better. I love him for that.
I've got a lot of work to do to resort my life now that it has changed so much in the last two months. I'm sure Chip can relate.
Wow, now that you all know every intimate detail of the ********* two months of my life...
Thanks for listening. I'm going to crank some iTunes and get this work done - only 1,200 images! In all seriousness, though, don't worry, but the thoughts are welcome.
P.S.
I love my little David Midshipman. He's called me the last two Sundays just to see how I am, which really makes me feel good. He's too busy at the academy to work for me much, but I do have some shoots coming up where he's going to assist for me, hopefully.
First of all, having a break and going to NYC would really be a good idea. You'd have the chance of spending some time together without having to think of work and finances and all the other s*** time-offs are supposed to clear out of your mind (and hopefully out of Rob's). Plus, seeing scem0 would really do you both a lot of goodiGary said:
.And if, by any chance, things get any worse, finding a therapist would definitely be necessary. And if he really cares about your relationship (which I assume he does), he'll make room in his agenda for a few sessions (which can't possibly last more than an hour each).
What he said last night was neither fair nor true at all, which can really mean one thing: he is stressed out.
I think he is trying to tell you something, but is afraid to say it because he cares about you and doesn't want to hurt you.
And by going to councelling both of you would be forced to say out loud and face the issues that are separating you two.
That's all I had to say and I hope that the last part made sense
.Hey, what are online friends foriGary said:
? They gotta be supportive, right?
leekohler said:Yes- sounds like you need to get out. Go see scem0- make him do handstands in a speedo for you. I know that would make me feel better.
I'll have to admit - Emerson is totally my type (that's a compliment, Emo), but I have tons of friends that are and I've only asked a handful to get naked.
iGary said:I'm not going anywhere, as he suggested, but we'll definitely be talking about this more. It's not my fault he took this job, or leaves at 6 in the morning and gets home at 10 at night. I can see it making him miserable.
We've been together almost 6 years.
I guess I am just in a funk lately.
Dad died.
Grandmom two weeks later.
Surgery that will keep me from running until spring....
Just feel like alot of the things that keep me going in life are gone.
Mainly, I'm having a "good" time feeling sorry for myself. I need to snap out of it.
OK, now everyone strip and post pictures so we can get banned.
Gary, you too have had a pretty full plate of things this year.
With the situation with Rob, I can relate. Teddy was the major bread winner, but always short on cash. I was the one that was able to keep things afloat though.
Though I can see Rob's feelings. Teddy was also the one that got to travel by himself, twice on my own free tickets from the airlines! Any mention of my solo travel was met with attitude. Hated it that I was left at home, whether it was due to job change or whatever. I know now that these trips were his way of tricking out on me.
From what I gather, you and Rob are having other problems in the relationship. And Rob may feel that your solo trips are your effort to get some "fun" elsewhere. Also the fact that you both met online, and you spend a good deal of time on the net - only feeds that fear or concern in him.
I will keep you both in my prayers. Though take it from one that has been there recently, one person alone can not keep a relationship going.
leekohler said:Yes- sounds like you need to get out. Go see scem0- make him do handstands in a speedo for you. I know that would make me feel better.
Is that what you will have scem0 do for you on your NYC trip?
If I can still talk Gary into the trip to NYC, the 4 of should hang out together in NYC.
That would be fun . I'll leave y'all to wonder whether I'm referring to doing handstands in a speedo for Lee and iGary or hanging out with y'all.
_Emerson
. I'll leave y'all to wonder whether I'm referring to doing handstands in a speedo for Lee and iGary or hanging out with y'all._Emerson
Chip NoVaMac said:
Umm- that would be the least of my expectations.
Chip NoVaMac said:
I'm still trying to work it out. I may actually have to postpone til January. My finances got screwed up, so it may not be possible until then. It could still happen though.
Chip NoVaMac said:
Indeed. As have you, and you seem to have come out shining. It is an inspiration.
Chip NoVaMac said:
I'll be sure to reassure him that I certainly don't use any of the trips I have taken as booty calls. I'd never do that to him, but maybe he needs to hear it. That said, I can understand why he would rather me stay home, but if he has a problem with me going to NYC for a day with a friend, then we have other problems.
Chip NoVaMac said:
We do have our issues - but at the end of the day I chalk most of it up to financial, work and general lack of time together issues, honestly. He's never home, and when he does get home, I'm exhausted, if not asleep already. Then on weekends, we're both so whiped out that neither of us are any fun to be around. Most of my solo trips have been for marathoning, this was my first suggestion of an on my own trip.
Chip NoVaMac said:
Thanks, we'll get there, I'm sure. Just so much to wrangle with lately. BTW - you have PM.
scem0 said:That would be fun
_Emerson
I'm not wondering about anything.
leekohler said:Umm- that would be the least of my expectations.
I'm still trying to work it out. I may actually have to postpone til January. My finances got screwed up, so it may not be possible until then. It could still happen though.
You can stay in my dorm free of charge. We'd both have to squeeze into my little twin sized bed though
._Emerson
scem0 said:You can stay in my dorm free of charge. We'd both have to squeeze into my little twin sized bed though
_Emerson
Nothing would make me happier.
Hmm- scem0's bed vs. staying home. No brainer- here I come baby. leekohler said:Yes- sounds like you need to get out. Go see scem0- make him do handstands in a speedo for you. I know that would make me feel better.
Hear Hear !!
Open invitation here guys, any of you passing through London should definately give me a shout. We'll have a few pints
leekohler said:Nothing would make me happier.
Zaid said:Hear Hear !!
Open invitation here guys, any of you passing through London should definately give me a shout. We'll have a few pints
If you pay for a plane ticket I'll gladly hang out
, I might even do a couple handstands in a speedo._Emerson
scem0 said:
If you pay for a plane ticket I'll gladly hang out
_Emerson
Careful there mate, in some jurisdictions that is tantamount to solicitation
, what with hanging out of your speedos whilst doing handstands and all Though if you do ever do a trip to london, i should be around to hang out and if you are on a budget, i do remember what being a student is like
my sleeper couch is always available
Zaid said:Hear Hear !!
Open invitation here guys, any of you passing through London should definately give me a shout. We'll have a few pints
London is out of my price range at the moment. Maybe someday!
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