Can you provide any information supporting your claim that Carla dropped support because Apple did something bad? Because I did some searching, and this doesn't seem remotely true. The discussions I've found on the project's github issue tracker say the project's devs don't even own Macs:
Online I see that there only exist manual for installing and building Carla on Linux. Is it possible for installing and running it on Mac?
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It does sound like Carla has been built on macOS in the past. That's because, despite your complaints, Apple's "ecosystem mess" has all the library dependencies Carla requires. People were able to hack on the build scripts, edit a few source files, and get it built and running.
However, it also sounds like nobody ever stepped up to do the hard work: polishing the changes enough to merge them back into the main tree, then volunteering to maintain it over a long period of time. This is an issue common to all volunteer open source projects. If you don't find a sufficiently dedicated volunteer to maintain something, it's going to wither away and die.