OMG, you would not believe how many times people contact me either super late at night, or, when I TELL THEM IN ADVANCE that I won't be available and they STILL try. I'm not one to get upset or annoyed by small things like that, but still...
I also think it's a generational thing. It seems like people of my generation REALLY love to text me at 1 AM, but older people have some sort of limit as to how late they'll get ahold of me—usually it's like 10 PM. The same thing goes for like vacations and such, but I gotta say, I'm not really the type of person that will "sign off" for two weeks. I understand the many benefits of doing that, but it just never works our for me.
Again, I try not to be really bothered by it because it's just something that happens.
Unless it's really important, or it's work related and I know for sure that person is on duty, or we're really good friends my limit is between 8 and 9 PM, and never during weekends, holidays and vacation periods, again, unless it's something really important.
Even older people (in their 40s, 50s), especially those used to tech, have adopted the toxic mentality that since you're reachable then you can be reached, even with phone calls; people need to learn the hard way, and that hard way is airplane mode, not even Do Not Disturb, with airplane mode, even if you send me a message (everybody here uses WhatsApp) you'll see that your message wasn't delivered.
I tried this method with voice notes, I hate listening to voice notes, I tried telling people, I tried to write it in my Whatsapp status and contact info, I tried listening and replying to people telling them that I prefer not to receive voice notes, nothing worked, until I stopped replying altogether, only then people stopped wasting my time with their voice notes.
That’s why I am very afraid of “work from home” mindset, let alone VR offices. Scares the heck out of me how the line between work and home is slowly disappearing
The mentality "It's just a message, it will just take you a couple of minutes to do that" or, even worse, "Hey, can you stop by tomorrow for a couple of minutes?", is toxic and very rude, setting boundaries the hard way it's the only solution.
However, there should be a better way, because with airplane mode I'm also excluding people whom I'd have no problems being contacted from, I'll figure it out.