What’s on your mind?

[Scepticalscribe]

Going home from my trip today. Can’t wait as I miss Mrs AFB.
Not been a great trip.
Traffic was bad getting here.
The trip to take photos yesterday on Skomer island (the reason we came) got cancelled due to bad seas.
Generally not enjoyed the other sociable aspects of the trip.
I always knew sharing a house with 9 other people would be challenging for me. But probably copped worse with it than I’d have hoped.

I just don’t enjoy these experiences anymore. At least I had my own room. But I could still hear the snoring from one of the other rooms. Been awake at 4 both mornings. Eventually got up at 5. It’s now 6 and I’ll go for a walk when I’ve finished my tea.

Sorry to hear that, as I know that you were looking forward to it.

Personal space - and private space - are something that I have increasingly come to cherish as I have aged, - and I am someone who has always liked (and known I liked) my own personal, and private, space, and have also long liked when this was recognised and respected by others.

 

[rm5]

I like being by myself. I understand all the reasons why you shouldn't (connecting with the outside world, talking to people, etc.), but I feel like I already do that enough, and that's what's nice about being a musician, is that kinda just happens automatically when I go out for a gig. When I'm alone, I can do whatever the hell I want without worrying about what other people might think.

What's complicated about me though is that although I like being alone, I also like being in the company of others. I'm just so awful at socializing that I often just sit there passively though. Often times, I don't talk either because I just want to keep my thoughts to myself, or because I don't know anything about the topic of discussion. Thing is though, if it's something I know about, then it's hard to stop talking about it.

Also, I've never once done the classic "going out with friends" thing—just never have. I have my own stuff I'm doing, and they have their own stuff they're doing - why complicate things by adding an extra task or event to an already busy schedule? I think that I belong on the stage with other musicians, not at a friend's house watching TV. To say it's not worth my time is putting it too harsh—but I just think doing that kinda stuff makes me nervous for some reason.

 

[Lioness~]

Deleted my account on Insight Timer! Extremely liberating to outgrow things, and take the next steps forward, regardless what it is about actually.

Even the clock in Apple's devices have a timer when I need it, perfect.
Then I already had a few apps for habit tracking, of course I had.

What's on my mind is the searing pain in my legs from being stung by a yellowjacket (yes, the same one) three times. This is what I get for trying to get out of the city and enjoy the outdoors. 😭

Ouch, that hurts, take care of you.

Anyway, wasp stings are nasty, and you have my sympathies.

They indeed are, I have been through it as a kid. I don't recall details, but I recall the pain.

 

[zach-coleman]

I’ve been having trouble finding decent employment for a very long time now. For the second time, I’ve gotten to the final interview with a company and I think I might have a shot. It’s probably the second best company I’ve gotten anywhere with as well, especially for location. (California, a place I really want to live. The previous was in Arizona.) I really hope this one works out.

 

[KaiFiMacFan]

I like being by myself. I understand all the reasons why you shouldn't (connecting with the outside world, talking to people, etc.), but I feel like I already do that enough, and that's what's nice about being a musician, is that kinda just happens automatically when I go out for a gig. When I'm alone, I can do whatever the hell I want without worrying about what other people might think.

What's complicated about me though is that although I like being alone, I also like being in the company of others. I'm just so awful at socializing that I often just sit there passively though. Often times, I don't talk either because I just want to keep my thoughts to myself, or because I don't know anything about the topic of discussion. Thing is though, if it's something I know about, then it's hard to stop talking about it.

Also, I've never once done the classic "going out with friends" thing—just never have. I have my own stuff I'm doing, and they have their own stuff they're doing - why complicate things by adding an extra task or event to an already busy schedule? I think that I belong on the stage with other musicians, not at a friend's house watching TV. To say it's not worth my time is putting it too harsh—but I just think doing that kinda stuff makes me nervous for some reason.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying being by yourself; I don't think it's a matter of why you "shouldn't". I think it's only a problem if you are wanting to be around others and aren't able to (but it sounds like you are in some capacity). I think most people desire (or need) some kind of social interaction, even if they're introverted or "bad" at socializing. I'm not great at socializing either, but I have friends who can bring it out of me, friends I can be funny with and have a lot in common with so socializing feels a lot less effortful around them. As for "going out with friends", I had friends who for them "going out" meant going to some extremely loud crowded nightclub or watching a football game on TV for hours and that was not my thing at all, but others for whom it meant going for walk or hike together or going to an art gallery or trying a new restaurant, things I actually like. I'm not saying you have to go out, but if sitting and watching TV doesn't do it for you, then I'd try and find something to do with others that would make it worth it.

I found it fairly easy to socialize in high school and college--living with roommates sometimes made for too much socialization--but now that I've graduated and people have moved on and are focusing on their careers, I realize how much I took being around friends that much for granted. I still have good people in my life I can do stuff with (and I start grad school this fall after a year off--hoping to make some new friends there), but you don't want to wish you'd done more socializing after it's no longer so easy to do so.

 

[VulchR]

What's on my mind is the searing pain in my legs from being stung by a yellowjacket (yes, the same one) three times. This is what I get for trying to get out of the city and enjoy the outdoors. 😭

Ouch.

When I was a kid I was playing in some woods and I stepped into an hole that was part an old mole tunnel. I didn't think much of it and walked on. Unfortunately, the tunnel contained a yellow-jacket nest and I didn't realise they were going after me until they were inside my clothes. I got stung more than forty times - enough to cause vomiting. Now when I see one, I vacillate between phobia and rage, but I have learned not to kill them on sight as long as they don't bother me.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Thoroughly enjoyed a wonderful massage yesterday.

 

[Apple fanboy]

Thoroughly enjoyed a wonderful massage yesterday.

Sounds delightful. After 5 hours in the car yesterday, I could use one of those.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Sounds delightful. After 5 hours in the car yesterday, I could use one of those.

It was amazing, and afterwards, I felt absolutely wonderful.

 

[compwiz1202]

Anyone else hate the new Chrome look? In light mode, it defaults to this god-awful blue color for the tab/address bar. In dark mode, at least it's dark gray. But the worst part is, when you go Customize Chrome > pick the deep black color, the accent color (when you highlight text in the address bar) is PINK!! PINK!! Doesn't match the system theme at all. I just don't get it... and there's no way to change it. But that blue tab bar, just WHY!

Light mode - the yucky blue:
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I'm pretty much always dark mode unless they make the constrast is horrible like one had dark blue text. How can people even read that?

 

[compwiz1202]

I like being by myself. I understand all the reasons why you shouldn't (connecting with the outside world, talking to people, etc.), but I feel like I already do that enough, and that's what's nice about being a musician, is that kinda just happens automatically when I go out for a gig. When I'm alone, I can do whatever the hell I want without worrying about what other people might think.

What's complicated about me though is that although I like being alone, I also like being in the company of others. I'm just so awful at socializing that I often just sit there passively though. Often times, I don't talk either because I just want to keep my thoughts to myself, or because I don't know anything about the topic of discussion. Thing is though, if it's something I know about, then it's hard to stop talking about it.

Also, I've never once done the classic "going out with friends" thing—just never have. I have my own stuff I'm doing, and they have their own stuff they're doing - why complicate things by adding an extra task or event to an already busy schedule? I think that I belong on the stage with other musicians, not at a friend's house watching TV. To say it's not worth my time is putting it too harsh—but I just think doing that kinda stuff makes me nervous for some reason.

Yea I'd rather hang with people who don't just talk to hear themselves. Just talk about what activity we are doing and maybe a little extra.

 

[Huntn]

I like being by myself. I understand all the reasons why you shouldn't (connecting with the outside world, talking to people, etc.), but I feel like I already do that enough, and that's what's nice about being a musician, is that kinda just happens automatically when I go out for a gig. When I'm alone, I can do whatever the hell I want without worrying about what other people might think.

What's complicated about me though is that although I like being alone, I also like being in the company of others. I'm just so awful at socializing that I often just sit there passively though. Often times, I don't talk either because I just want to keep my thoughts to myself, or because I don't know anything about the topic of discussion. Thing is though, if it's something I know about, then it's hard to stop talking about it.

Also, I've never once done the classic "going out with friends" thing—just never have. I have my own stuff I'm doing, and they have their own stuff they're doing - why complicate things by adding an extra task or event to an already busy schedule? I think that I belong on the stage with other musicians, not at a friend's house watching TV. To say it's not worth my time is putting it too harsh—but I just think doing that kinda stuff makes me nervous for some reason.

There's nothing wrong with enjoying being by yourself; I don't think it's a matter of why you "shouldn't". I think it's only a problem if you are wanting to be around others and aren't able to (but it sounds like you are in some capacity). I think most people desire (or need) some kind of social interaction, even if they're introverted or "bad" at socializing. I'm not great at socializing either, but I have friends who can bring it out of me, friends I can be funny with and have a lot in common with so socializing feels a lot less effortful around them. As for "going out with friends", I had friends who for them "going out" meant going to some extremely loud crowded nightclub or watching a football game on TV for hours and that was not my thing at all, but others for whom it meant going for walk or hike together or going to an art gallery or trying a new restaurant, things I actually like. I'm not saying you have to go out, but if sitting and watching TV doesn't do it for you, then I'd try and find something to do with others that would make it worth it.

I found it fairly easy to socialize in high school and college--living with roommates sometimes made for too much socialization--but now that I've graduated and people have moved on and are focusing on their careers, I realize how much I took being around friends that much for granted. I still have good people in my life I can do stuff with (and I start grad school this fall after a year off--hoping to make some new friends there), but you don't want to wish you'd done more socializing after it's no longer so easy to do so.

The older I get the less social I have become (recently turned 70, yes call it what it is, ancient ) if I was single, I would seek out 1 or 2 friends I think. At least that is what I did when I was single (1979). Today I have zero interest in seeking new friendships say at the gym, of which I go to regularly. I have a nice active relationship with my son (except for his psycho X who is still sneaking about in the shadows), occupy myself with an Unreal Engine project I have been tinkering with for over a year, have nice conversations with people on occasion, neighbors, people at the gym, but never the urge to invite them to dinner. Partially I blame my wife, she takes up most of my social energy on a routine basis, I’ve just got nothing left over. And it does not help being somewhat surrounded by Red Yahoos (Texas) and their loud depictions of how the world should be, all their fantastical political talk including their love of multitudes of Preciouses.

 

[Apple fanboy]

The older I get the less social I have become (recently turned 70, yes call it what it is, ancient ) if I was single, I would seek out 1 or 2 friends I think. At least that is what I did when I was single (1979). Today I have zero interest in seeking new friendships say at the gym, of which I go to regularly. I have a nice active relationship with my son (except for his psycho X who is still sneaking about in the shadows), occupy myself with an Unreal Engine project I have been tinkering with for over a year, have nice conversations with people on occasion, neighbors, people at the gym, but never the urge to invite them to dinner. Partially I blame my wife, she takes up most of my social energy on a routine basis, I’ve just got nothing left over. And it does not help being somewhat surrounded by Red Yahoos (Texas) and their loud depictions of how the world should be, all their fantastical political talk including their love of multitudes of Preciouses.

Likewise. I’ve not had anyone visit the house apart from tradespeople in a decade. Mrs AFB and I are quite content on our own thanks.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Entitled individuals.

 

[Pezimak]

2 things I hate that I've seen over the last couple of days. The new You Tube layout and the new Apple website layout. First world problems yes. But very annoying and confusing too.

 

[yaxomoxay]

@Scepticalscribe, some guanciale and extra Virgin olive oil donated to us by a nearby farm that produces them here in Tuscany.

 

[rm5]

2 things I hate that I've seen over the last couple of days. The new You Tube layout and the new Apple website layout. First works problems yes. But very annoying and confusing too.

What's the new Youtube layout? Is it on mobile? I almost never watch on mobile, so maybe that's why I haven't noticed. Or have I just been stupidly ignorant this whole time and there's a new UI on desktop?

 

[Scepticalscribe]

@Scepticalscribe, some guanciale and extra Virgin olive oil donated to us by a nearby farm that produces them here in Tuscany.

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What can I say other than "wonderful", firstly, and secondly, thank you for sharing this.

Guanciale and olive oil.....yum.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Mulberry trees, and mulberries.

Today, for the first time in my life, I tried, tasted (and devoured) a bowl of (freshly picked) mulberries. Yum.

 

[Lioness~]

Trying to see, and are actually seeing, some positive sides of a non-existent summer.
I guess Mother Earth appreciates the watering she gets here.
Our condominium have planted new grass all around our building due to some renovations, so it will grow well of all the watering this summer.
Hopefully it will be a mild winter then, which is often the case when summer is sh*t.
I actually want a mild winter that more then more summer at this time.

 

[Pezimak]

What's the new Youtube layout? Is it on mobile? I almost never watch on mobile, so maybe that's why I haven't noticed. Or have I just been stupidly ignorant this whole time and there's a new UI on desktop?

Yeah it's on mobile, so you can go to a channel and where as before you used to have a simple video tab to show all their videos. Now you have a latest videos tab. So not all videos like before.

 

[Apple fanboy]

Trying to see, and are actually seeing, some positive sides of a non-existent summer.
I guess Mother Earth appreciates the watering she gets here.
Our condominium have planted new grass all around our building due to some renovations, so it will grow well of all the watering this summer.
Hopefully it will be a mild winter then, which is often the case when summer is sh*t.
I actually want a mild winter that more then more summer at this time.

Non existent summer? Just had our hottest driest June since records began.

Hosepipe bans already in place in some places.

Fortunately July has started a little cooler.

 

[arkitect]

Mulberry trees, and mulberries.

Today, for the first time in my life, I tried, tasted (and devoured) a bowl of (freshly picked) mulberries. Yum.

Glad you enjoyed them!

One of the perks for me when hiking around the countryside is a bit of foraging… and last year we came across a mulberry tree — in full fruit.
I gorged myself. Though spent the rest of the day with Lady Macbeth hands! 🙂

I grew up in an area with loads of mulberry trees — and every year at school there was a silkworm season. Everyone had a shoe box with silkworms and mulberry leaves were the preferred food for these spinning worms… I think I still have one of the bookmarks I had them spin me. Somewhere.

50+ years ago… *sigh*

 

[arkitect]

Non existent summer? Just had our hottest driest June since records began.

Hosepipe bans already in place in some places.

Fortunately July has started a little cooler.

Haha! UNfortunately just in time for our summer beach holiday. 🤣

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Glad you enjoyed them!

One of the perks for me when hiking around the countryside is a bit of foraging… and last year we came across a mulberry tree — in full fruit.
I gorged myself. Though spent the rest of the day with Lady Macbeth hands! 🙂

I grew up in an area with loads of mulberry trees — and every year at school there was a silkworm season. Everyone had a shoe box with silkworms and mulberry leaves were the preferred food for these spinning worms… I think I still have one of the bookmarks I had them spin me. Somewhere.

50+ years ago… *sigh*

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Today, I gorged myself, too.

My driver (who had brought me a plastic container full of mulberries that he had picked himself from his garden) warned me about mulberry juice stained Lady Macbeth hands (as he handed me a tissue), not, that he quite phrased it that way.