What’s on your mind?

[Rafterman]

Glad you are in a better place. You found what worked for you. We all have different ways of dealing with crises.

I have to say there are a couple of wonderful members on here who helped me when I was dealing with a situation I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

Personally, I love history.

 

[Apple fanboy]

Personally, I love history.

I find some history fascinating for sure. But I wouldn’t say I’ve studied it in the way @yaxomoxay or @Scepticalscribe have.

 

[The-Real-Deal82]

Confession time.

2023 has been very hard on me, lots of psychological blows. I think I was very very close to divorce, that I was close to something that I don’t believe in. I couldn’t focus at work. I couldn’t do crap (however I was able to maintain my gym routine which really helped). I was backstabbed by some members of my birth family. It was rough. For the first time in my 40 years I had panic attacks, and it wasn’t fun at all.

Some people say or think that studying philosophy and history is boring and useless. Both of them helped me get over the many issues I had, in particular philosophy. History helped as it allowed me to put certain things in context, but philosophy helped me in finding an anchor in something that is superior to my own thoughts. It allowed to me to use a framework of mind and thought that I didn’t need to invent myself. When your own existence and essence is in question, there is no time for being adventurous and a pathfinder. You gotta rely on something that is already solid. I know I did, and now I am in a much better place.

Glad you’ve found an outlet that has eased your anxiety and saved your marriage. It’s amazing how life can come out of the left field and punch us in the gut.

2012 was the worse year of my life. I lost my step father at just 52 years old to leukaemia in the March and my wife fell pregnant, only for us to lose the baby quite far into the pregnancy in the September, actually on the date of my step fathers birthday. I drank a lot for a bit after that and was very angry at the world. I had some very dark thoughts back then. I found my solace in music and it helped me think and find answers though. We men don’t talk to others for some reason.

It’s nice to be out the other side and looking forward, cheers to you mate .

 

[Scepticalscribe]

@yaxomoxay, I'm very sorry to learn of your troubles, stresses and strains, - and when they are personal, they are far harder to deal with, at least, I have always thought so; I've worked in war zones, but found trying to cope with the challenges of with my mother's dementia and deterioration far more stressful. You have my commiserations and empathy.

In any case, as @Apple fanboy has said, we all have different ways of dealing with crisis, and I'm glad that you have found a way of attempting to deal with it.

As others have already observed, each person deals with such stuff in their own way; oddly, even aside from history (a perennial and permanent love of mine) and philosophy (Marcus Aurelius rocks), I find that I really like to read some poetry when things seem a bit bleak, or a bit much.

Take care and try to be kind to yourself.

 

[Apple fanboy]

Glad you’ve found an outlet that has eased your anxiety and saved your marriage. It’s amazing how life can come out of the left field and punch us in the gut.

2012 was the worse year of my life. I lost my step father at just 52 years old to leukaemia in the March and my wife fell pregnant, only for us to lose the baby quite far into the pregnancy in the September, actually on the date of my step fathers birthday. I drank a lot for a bit after that and was very angry at the world. I had some very dark thoughts back then. I found my solace in music and it helped me think and find answers though. We men don’t talk to others for some reason.

It’s nice to be out the other side and looking forward, cheers to you mate .

Tough year. My wife lost her mother to the same thing at a similar age.
Alcohol is never the answer. I’ve been there and tried that.
Better to find different options.

 

[yaxomoxay]

Glad you are in a better place. You found what worked for you. We all have different ways of dealing with crises.

I have to say there are a couple of wonderful members on here who helped me when I was dealing with a situation I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy.

Thank you. Yes, even if all of us are “strangers” here, I also consider many of you as friends. I think that some of you know more about me than some of my irl friends.

Personally, I love history.

It’s an amazing subject, I wish we could get kids more interested on the subject as it seems that most school teachers are able to make people hate it.

I find some history fascinating for sure. But I wouldn’t say I’ve studied it in the way @yaxomoxay or @Scepticalscribe have.

I wouldn’t even dare to compare myself to scepticalscribe. I am an amateur, she’s an amazing historian.

Glad you’ve found an outlet that has eased your anxiety and saved your marriage. It’s amazing how life can come out of the left field and punch us in the gut.

2012 was the worse year of my life. I lost my step father at just 52 years old to leukaemia in the March and my wife fell pregnant, only for us to lose the baby quite far into the pregnancy in the September, actually on the date of my step fathers birthday. I drank a lot for a bit after that and was very angry at the world. I had some very dark thoughts back then. I found my solace in music and it helped me think and find answers though. We men don’t talk to others for some reason.

It’s nice to be out the other side and looking forward, cheers to you mate .

Wow, thank you for sharing your story. Yes, things happen and sometimes it feels like they happen all at once. It’s weird. Whatever happen, we keep moving forward.

@yaxomoxay, I'm very sorry to learn of your troubles, stresses and strains, - and when they are personal, they are far harder to deal with, at least, I have always thought so; I've worked in war zones, but found trying to cope with the challenges of with my mother's dementia and deterioration far more stressful. You have my commiserations and empathy.

In any case, as @Apple fanboy has said, we all have different ways of dealing with crisis, and I'm glad that you have found a way of attempting to deal with it.

As others have already observed, each person deals with such stuff in their own way; oddly, even aside from history (a perennial and permanent love of mine) and philosophy (Marcus Aurelius rocks), I find that I really like to read some poetry when things seem a bit bleak, or a bit much.

Take care and try to be kind to yourself.

Thank you. Poetry is an interesting comfort food for the mind, I should definitely read more. My two favorite poems are, Wild Nights by Emily Dickinson,

and Giacomo Leopardi’s “L’infinito” (sadly, like any poem it can’t really translate well):

 

[yaxomoxay]

Alcohol is never the answer. I’ve been there and tried that.
Better to find different options.

agreed, I truly found out this year.

 

[Apple fanboy]

agreed, I truly found out this year.

I don’t drink very often. But I’ve learnt it’s best done in company and in moderation.
These days just a few beers affects me a lot more than it used to.

 

[Clix Pix]

What's on my mind right now? I'm beaming with pride that American Simone Biles has now set new records (again!) and quite definitely can truly be considered the Greatest of All Time (G.O.A.T.) in women's gymnastics as today she won her sixth World Championship. A happy day for her, the American women's gymnastics team and the USA!!

 

[Scepticalscribe]

They say that alcohol is a fine servant but a poor master.

2012 was a bleak year for me, as well.

 

[Scepticalscribe]

A quick late afternoon visit to the city, where I collected my bread (in the French bakery), my meat, organic shin beef on the bone, and ham hocks - the bones, which lend such flavour to anything cooked with either meat, also makes carrying them rather heavy - (that had been left for me in the cheesemonger's), and my (organic, double) cream (also in the cheesemonger's).

While there, it seemed appropriate to add some cheese to my shopping.

 

[yaxomoxay]

Woke up to troubling foreign policy news. I assume that everyone knows what I am referring to. Despite being very interested in foreign policy, this one worries me a lot on the human suffering side. I hope to be wrong, but I foresee lots of pain.

For those of us in “safe” areas, let’s take a second to think and be grateful for something that is so important, and yet not granted.

 

[Crowbot]

Woke up to troubling foreign policy news. I assume that everyone knows what I am referring to. Despite being very interested in foreign policy, this one worries me a lot on the human suffering side. I hope to be wrong, but I foresee lots of pain.

For those of us in “safe” areas, let’s take a second to think and be grateful for something that is so important, and yet not granted.

My brother and his family are in Jerusalem. So far, so good.

 

[Apple fanboy]

Woke up to troubling foreign policy news. I assume that everyone knows what I am referring to. Despite being very interested in foreign policy, this one worries me a lot on the human suffering side. I hope to be wrong, but I foresee lots of pain.

For those of us in “safe” areas, let’s take a second to think and be grateful for something that is so important, and yet not granted.

To be honest there are so many troubling news stories today, but yes I’m pretty sure I know the one you are referring to.
One of my bosses was there last week and I’m not sure when he is coming back to the UK.
Hopefully things will calm down there soon.
And yes very grateful to be living in a safer part of the world.

 

[VulchR]

Woke up to troubling foreign policy news. I assume that everyone knows what I am referring to. Despite being very interested in foreign policy, this one worries me a lot on the human suffering side. I hope to be wrong, but I foresee lots of pain.

For those of us in “safe” areas, let’s take a second to think and be grateful for something that is so important, and yet not granted.

A lot of innocent people have and will suffer along with the guilty. Given human nature, it will escalate. Sad day.

 

[Fat_Guy]

I slept most of Saturday on and off.


What’s on my mind is having no time to myself. One hectic trip to Manhattan during UN General Assembly which clogs everything up. Then back home and dealing with some music festival for next year with the industry non-existent. And I’m near retirement wondering what’s that all about.


The funny part was posting on Macrumors in places you wouldn’t believe. Hahahaha…

 

[Apple fanboy]

If I sleep in to 8 it’s late for me.

The warm weather is on my mind. Very unlike October. I’ll have to get the shorts back out at this rate.

Also the ongoing situation abroad. One of my bosses is in Isreal at the moment.
He’s safe but basically can’t leave the house.

 

[rm5]

Woke up this morning with a sore throat and a bad headache... that sucks. Must have caught a cold or something. I still went to my rehearsal though (wearing two masks). Otherwise I've been stuck up in my room doing work (which I REALLY hate).

 

[Clix Pix]

Better test for COVID just to be sure it's not that.....

 

[rm5]

Better test for COVID just to be sure it's not that.....

Good point. I will make sure to do that for sure!

 

[Scepticalscribe]

Woke up this morning with a sore throat and a bad headache... that sucks. Must have caught a cold or something. I still went to my rehearsal though (wearing two masks). Otherwise I've been stuck up in my room doing work (which I REALLY hate).

Stay hydrated, and remember to take plenty of hot drinks, such as tea, also.

 

[Mylodon]

Woke up this morning with a sore throat and a bad headache... that sucks. Must have caught a cold or something. I still went to my rehearsal though (wearing two masks). Otherwise I've been stuck up in my room doing work (which I REALLY hate).

Lemon with honey water, and getting enough sleep might help!

 

[Mylodon]

I couldn't understand why would that happen, it's for the human faith or desire? But very unfortunately, only innocent people from both sides suffer.

 

[icanhazmac]

For those of us in “safe” areas, let’s take a second to think and be grateful for something that is so important, and yet not granted.

Yup, depending where you are "safe" areas aren't all that safe anymore. Hopefully those that continue to enjoy relative safety don't take it for granted.

I hope to be wrong, but I foresee lots of pain.

Unfortunately, I am forced to agree with this assessment.

 

[rm5]

Lemon with honey water, and getting enough sleep might help!

Ibuprofen seems to be working well enough.