Hi Dan. I have the 2018 i9. I think you need to read a little more and wait for more data before getting into an absolute resolution here regarding your i9. For my workflow, that would usually take around 15 minutes to process on my maxed out 2017 i7, took me just over 5 minutes with my i9. Compared with my colleagues, 2018 i7, It took his around 7 minutes to do the exact same process. I won't go into more detail as you can search my other posts.
There are other tests that show that the i9 is still the most capable MacBook Pro in the market BUT what the issue is, and is my issue as well with Apple is that they would advertise the i9 to being able to keep a 2.9 clock base and boost up to 4.8, whereas underload, we are getting a 2.6-2.7 load with boasts that don't go higher than 4.3. Which to me, is a deceiving number to bring out without a disclaimer about the cooling system limitations on the MacBook Pro Chassis.
With that said, nevertheless for my use, I'm happy because it boils down to me actually getting the best performance for my need beating both the 2017 and 2018 i7. Now, those using other applications and what not, I have no idea why, but it seems like a whole lot of other stuff happening. Now whether the small bump is worth the additional cost of the i9, that is totally up to you.
So here is a tip for you, and others who are considering returning or cancelling your i9. Take it, use it to hell, if it doesn't satisfy you, return it. I was considering returning it when I saw it was throttling but when I did real life tests to see how it compared to my older mac, I found out it performed better. So, I am keeping it.