I am right there with you OP. I would say I made the decision like two years ago. I will share some of my story here. People can see how long I have been a member here and my post history.
I used to be all Apple for many years. It was, simply put, the best option for software and hardware, both in mobile and computers. Everything was clean, smooth, lag-free, beautifully designed, elegant, easy-to-use, "just works", and all those other buzz words. That is simply not the case these days, and I think anyone with an open mind and has tried different platforms, will agree. I used to use a MBP all the time (both in laptop mode and hooked up to an external 144hz monitor). I think I fell out with macOS when they redesigned it. I don't even remember what version that was, but while it looked sexy in pictures, once I used it in real life, I was not a fan. Gone were the sleek, smooth, and unobtrusive UI elements. Now we have big, bloated UI all over macOS. Window title bars are THICK and there is wasted space everywhere. And to make matters worse, it is just SLOW. I try macOS again from time to time and I instantly feel like I am trying to get work done while wadding through mud. Window management is abysmal (unless you use a third part app which usually cost money - another annoyance of macOS at this point, everything is a "just buy this app"), animations are sluggish, preview lags just opening up a preview of a pdf, safari has to reload tabs if you have more than like 5 open at a time and leave for a bit and come back, I can't use uBlock Origin with Safari, iMessage constantly is out of sync with iMessage on my iPhone, it is LAGGY when trying to quickly view shared media in iMessage (also a problem on iOS), gaming is abysmal (no, Apple Silicon did not and will not solve this problem), macOS never remembered where my windows were placed when hooked to an external display, trying to use a mouse with macOS is annoying (cue the "just use the Magic Trackpad" crowd), and the list just goes on and on. I don't want to hear that this is because I need a new Mac either or that Apple Silicon fixed that. I had a M1 Max 16" MBP, and it was the same. It is just the UI and UX of macOS is BLOATED now. Not to mention the pricing is getting insane (RAM upgrades).
Compare this to Windows 11 and it is a night and day difference. I use a Windows 11 PC at work and a custom-built Windows 11 PC at home, and the UI is just out of the way and lightning fast. Everything is SNAPPY (especially on a 144hz monitor). I am way more efficient with a keyboard and mouse again than I ever was with a trackpad. I don't have to think about if something works with Windows or not. The support goes so far back I can run anything. I can have a clean desktop just like on macOS and debloat everything and turn off all telemetry. Edge is way better than Safari because I can use a real adblocker, and it doesn't crash pages EVER. Also, never had webpages not work on Edge. I have had several websites not load correctly or work on Safari. Windows management is as easy as drag to the edge or a keyboard shortcut. There are multiple window layouts built right into the maximize button on a hover over. It is like a swiss army knife. I can play any game I want. I use Everything search and it blows away Spotlight, instantly finding any file on my PC or cloud storage. I can integrate it right into windows search and search with one key (windows key) instead of two (cmd + spacebar). Miss Preview? I use QuickLook on windows and it is even better. Previews files INSTANTLY with a hit of spacebar. I will say out the box macOS can still do more with PDFs easier, but Edge has some good PDF tools built in, or I use a cracked version of PDF-Xchage Editor and it has it all. Hell, even the calculator on windows is better than on macOS.
I don't want to hear either that "yea windows is better because you are on a desktop!". I have a 16" intel MBP that I use Windows on in bootcamp and it is still snappier than my macOS side.
But now we come to the mobile side of things...
I still think the iPhone is the best, but barely. I recently tried a S23 and I was VERY close to switching but I just couldn't. iOS is still the place with the BEST designed apps and support for pretty much everything. It is still smooth (it's getting worse though), and just keeps running. Camera is still top notch. The cracks are starting to show though. The keyboard is becoming way worse, Apple's own apps are becoming bug ridden and bloated with ugly UI and UX and Apple is all about pushing subscription services now to make more recurring revenue. This is where the problem comes in. They still try to lure you in with their sexy and clean native apps and services, and if you fall into it, then you think "well I want to use these on my computer too" and you start thinking you want to switch to macOS, despite all those flaws I listed above. But the software is seriously degrading. The other day I was going to a simple house address 20 mins from my home, in a very open and noncomplicated area. I tried Apple Maps. It took me to the wrong street and the wrong house. Google Maps nailed it. This is not the first time either and I live in the midwest. Apple Maps doesn't even show a famous lighthouse, while Google does. But again, Apple Maps LOOKS nicer, so they lure you in, making you want to use it. But the data is crap compared to Google. The same goes for Apple Music, Mail, Reminders, Weather (jesus, this one is wrong almost every day), iMessage (Telegram is light years ahead of iMessage in features and UI/UX), and others.
Anyway, this is getting long winded so I will just say this:
At this point I am completely back in with Windows 11 and custom built PC's or nice laptops, and I will continue to use the iPhone for now. However, I am almost completely switched away from Apple's services to decrease the lock-in effect. I actually find Microsoft has been upping their game with software and services. I use OneDrive for work across my devices easily, I use Tidal and Plex instead of Apple Music, I use Outlook on my iPhone and PC and it works way better than Mail ever did, I use Edge primarily for my browser on every device (still use Safari on my iPhone sometimes), I use Google Maps primarily over Apple Maps, I use Microsoft To Do reminders so I can use it on my phone and PC's. I still have a lot of information in Apple Notes but I have been dabbling with Standard Notes.
