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Yep your not alone. I’m sad to send my 11PM in. It is a great phone. I’m giving it a couple days. I got the 13 PM.
 
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Ok I feel pretty stupid posting this, but bear with me. Does anyone else feel kinda sad/weird after upgrading their iPhone?

Just got my 13 Pro yesterday, and it replaced my XS Max which I had 3 years (longest I’ve ever kept a phone). I don’t know if it’s the fact that I kept that phone the longest and was so used to it. Or maybe it was that I didn’t try iOS 15 until I got my 13 Pro, and maybe because I got a new phone and new version of iOS all at once, it was too overwhelming, but I just keep feeling like, “this is not my phone.”

It’s stupid because I transferred over straight from my XS Max, so it moved everything over the exact same. And I know this is a tool, and I’m not someone who gets emotional attachments to objects either, but idk, I feel kinda sad and weird using this new phone. It doesn’t feel like it’s really my phone or for me. I’ve upgraded my phones many times in the past before and never had this feeling. It’s not that I have buyer’s remorse either.

Please tell me I’m not the only one and that I’m not going crazy. 😅

Bro if your having this I'm waiting on the 14 IV had my 8 Plus 5 years with 1 battery change last month. I was hoping for TouchID I think I'm gonna have a mental breakdown when I get my 14 !! But you will be alright once you have used it
 
I thought I was going to be sad getting rid of last years 12 PM. Once I got the 13 PM loaded up and a couple days into it, I’m very happy. I guess I got used to it but the 12 ran so hot doing everything. The 13 PM feels room temperature all the time. This and the battery life is more than outstanding.
 
Yep your not alone. I’m sad to send my 11PM in. It is a great phone. I’m giving it a couple days. I got the 13 PM.
This. I’m sending my 11 Pro Max for trade in. It is so good to hold on the hands - it’s the last Pro Max sized iPhone that I can comfortably hold on hands due to the rounded edges. 12 Pro Max is too boxy and hard to hold.
 
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This. I’m sending my 11 Pro Max for trade in. It is so good to hold on the hands - it’s the last Pro Max sized iPhone that I can comfortably hold on hands due to the rounded edges. 12 Pro Max is too boxy and hard to hold.

Yes exactly. I swore I’d have it for years but new tech got me.
 
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I was a chronic yearly upgrader til I got the 11 pro max. I upgraded this year because of the awesome deals. I felt very sad giving up the 11pm. It actually hurt watching the Apple Store put it in the ziplock bag. That phone had been with me through everything the last 24 months. Are you crazy? I don't think so. But maybe I am.
 
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My only phone has been a feature phone. Or "it's just a phone, phone." But I have had sadness with computer upgrades, even when the upgrade was very worth it on practical grounds (e.g., more power), or even essential (like the first upgrade, when my faithful Macintosh SE started developing video trouble). And I even have noted some sadness at changing software. Some products have been there through a lot--both good and bad--and so they aren't just practical tools.

As for weirdness, I almost always feel some of that--particularly with software changes, with stuff potentially noticeably different.
 
I felt this way once when I went from my iPhone 5 to the 6. I loved the 5 so much, it was such an incredible device, lightweight, easy to use and hold, with the gorgeous polished bezels, and battery would last 2 straight days no problem. To me it was the absolute pinnacle of iPhone design. The 6 was a solid phone but it just didn’t make me feel delighted to use like the 5 did and none of the “bar of soap“ phones ever really grabbed me like the 5, so I always missed it. Thankfully the 12/13 mini feels like kind of a spiritual successor the 5/5S and I’m really enjoying it!
 
It’s a phone dude not a heart transplant. Stop being emotional.
One way to solve the problem would be to treat it like a heart transplant. In other words -- don't bother changing phones unless the one you're currently using is not working.
 
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I got a sweet trade in deal, and all the improvements over my 11 Pro Max are meaningful and worthwhile to me: the 120hz variable refresh rate screen, multiple camera improvements (macro, sensor shift stabilization, better ultrawide, more useful telephoto, night mode on every lens, ProRAW, etc), the HUGE battery life, and the better modem + 5G.
For me it just feels like I’ve significantly upgraded a device I use every day in ways that I notice and appreciate, so I’m usually more excited than anything!
 
Ok I feel pretty stupid posting this, but bear with me. Does anyone else feel kinda sad/weird after upgrading their iPhone?

Just got my 13 Pro yesterday, and it replaced my XS Max which I had 3 years (longest I’ve ever kept a phone). I don’t know if it’s the fact that I kept that phone the longest and was so used to it. Or maybe it was that I didn’t try iOS 15 until I got my 13 Pro, and maybe because I got a new phone and new version of iOS all at once, it was too overwhelming, but I just keep feeling like, “this is not my phone.”

It’s stupid because I transferred over straight from my XS Max, so it moved everything over the exact same. And I know this is a tool, and I’m not someone who gets emotional attachments to objects either, but idk, I feel kinda sad and weird using this new phone. It doesn’t feel like it’s really my phone or for me. I’ve upgraded my phones many times in the past before and never had this feeling. It’s not that I have buyer’s remorse either.

Please tell me I’m not the only one and that I’m not going crazy. 😅
I skipped ahead 5 generations of iPhone (13 Pro Max replacing 6s Plus) and 5 versions of iOS (10.3.3 to 15), of course it’s a little weird to me but I kind of like the fresh new feeling too, so much seems new and improved compared to my old phone and iOS version with both showing their age. And I opted to set it up as new instead of restoring from backup as well.
 
Hmm. Maybe not as emotional about it, but I'm still pondering. I got a 13 Pro, and it's great, but I'm not sure it's great enough to get rid of the XR. ProMotion is cool, but otherwise content is unchanged, and with a new battery, the XR would get me through the day. My monthly phone bill (plan and phone) would triple, and I know that's not a lot of money, but it still irks me adding on all these little incremental amounts.
 
Update: The plot thickens... I picked up my XR just now and everything I did on it was accompanied by a pretty obvious lag. Not to mention ProMotion... Not to mention the cameras...
 
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I felt this way when I gave up my iPhone 5s, man I loved that phone to death! I got a sweet deal for a trade in so I took the opportunity to get my 13 Pro.
 
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