Other Does anyone else feel sad/weird after upgrading?

[Wahlstrm]

Dammm then I overpaid for my degrees here in the states (Miami)

On the upside you get miles of beaches, tons of sunshine, 0% income tax, low sales tax, interesting art everywhere and you can spend your weekends at some of the best clubs in the world.

We get snow, darkness and tons of taxes.. 🤣

 

[ChoiMinji]

Ok I feel pretty stupid posting this, but bear with me. Does anyone else feel kinda sad/weird after upgrading their iPhone?

Just got my 13 Pro yesterday, and it replaced my XS Max which I had 3 years (longest I’ve ever kept a phone). I don’t know if it’s the fact that I kept that phone the longest and was so used to it. Or maybe it was that I didn’t try iOS 15 until I got my 13 Pro, and maybe because I got a new phone and new version of iOS all at once, it was too overwhelming, but I just keep feeling like, “this is not my phone.”

It’s stupid because I transferred over straight from my XS Max, so it moved everything over the exact same. And I know this is a tool, and I’m not someone who gets emotional attachments to objects either, but idk, I feel kinda sad and weird using this new phone. It doesn’t feel like it’s really my phone or for me. I’ve upgraded my phones many times in the past before and never had this feeling. It’s not that I have buyer’s remorse either.

Please tell me I’m not the only one and that I’m not going crazy. 😅

I've never have had an emotional effect towards an object and certainly not toward a phone. If anyone here feels sad about their phone or any other object for that matter, then I'd suggest seeking professional help.

 

[austriak]

I upgraded from iphone 11 pro to 13 pro and I feel regret. The 11 pro isn't super old but I needed to upgrade because it had a modem issue where it would drop cell and wifi frequently and would only work if I restarted the phone. The iphone 11 pro was my favorite iphone and I have felt mixed feelings and regret since the 13 pro.

I know that it isn't that much bigger or heavier than the 11 pro but it feels like having a heavy brick in my pockets and in my hands. The flat sides are a bad design in my opinion and that camera bump is just huge.

I traded in my 11 pro so there is no going back other than buying one but I don't want to buy a 2 year old phone. I am really considering going to the 13 mini or a non-iphone.

 

[ogawa]

Same feeling on Friday / Saturday after receiving my 13 Pro. My X started to not function smoothly so I felt it was time to upgrade. But using the 13 pro for the first day was kind of dreadful. The iCloud backup did not go very smoothly. Had to type in all my passwords again, wallet info, bluetooth speakers weren't working properly etc. And in general the X felt like the perfect screen size and ergonomic design. I am more of a fan of the rounded edges for larger phones. I didn't want or need a slightly larger screen, but then the only other option would be the mini. Kind of a frustrating predicament but ultimately the performance of the 13 pro has definitely been an improvement and I will likely be keeping it.

 

[xxray]

I've never have had an emotional effect towards an object and certainly not toward a phone. If anyone here feels sad about their phone or any other object for that matter, then I'd suggest seeking professional help.

I appreciate the concern, but respectfully, I’m not going to go to a therapist to say, “I feel weird that I upgraded to a new phone.” It’s not like I’m sitting here in emotional turmoil and ruin. I just feel unadjusted to the change.

I don’t think it’s that strange to feel weird about having a significant change to your most-used device, especially when you used your last one for years. Apparently, lots of people can relate for how many people liked and agreed with my post throughout this thread.

I understand why someone might see this post and be concerned/think that I have some underlying issue if I feel weird/sad about changing a tool/object, but after seeing all the responses to this post, it could just stem for the fact that humans for the most part don’t like a whole lot of change.

I guess I’m still just getting used to the change of a new device replacing my most-used device.

 

[Guacamole]

I miss Touch ID. I had (and still have) the 6s plus since launch

 

[johnc22]

I'm currently rocking a battery gimped iPhone 6 Plus. I will not be sad when my 13 Pro gets here!

 

[Starscape]

Ok I feel pretty stupid posting this, but bear with me. Does anyone else feel kinda sad/weird after upgrading their iPhone?

Just got my 13 Pro yesterday, and it replaced my XS Max which I had 3 years (longest I’ve ever kept a phone). I don’t know if it’s the fact that I kept that phone the longest and was so used to it. Or maybe it was that I didn’t try iOS 15 until I got my 13 Pro, and maybe because I got a new phone and new version of iOS all at once, it was too overwhelming, but I just keep feeling like, “this is not my phone.”

It’s stupid because I transferred over straight from my XS Max, so it moved everything over the exact same. And I know this is a tool, and I’m not someone who gets emotional attachments to objects either, but idk, I feel kinda sad and weird using this new phone. It doesn’t feel like it’s really my phone or for me. I’ve upgraded my phones many times in the past before and never had this feeling. It’s not that I have buyer’s remorse either.

Please tell me I’m not the only one and that I’m not going crazy. 😅

That’s called buyer’s remorse.

 

[shady281]

Starscape beat me to it but yes "Buyers Remorse".

I have the same feeling going from my 8+ to the 13. Outside of battery life, which is the main reason I upgraded (my battery was at 80% on the 8+), I'm not seeing it as being any huge leap.

In fact, I found that my wife's 11 seems to have better LTE reception. We go to a lake here to ride jet ski's and coverage while leaving the park goes to nil for about a quarter mile out in the past. Well, this weekend her 11 picked up in the usual spot - my 13, not. In fact the 13 didn't pick up for quite a while, a couple miles, after hers did.

Her 11 has an Intel modem, the 13 has Qualcomm... My 8+ with the older Intel modem also did better than the 13, not as good as the 11.

Way too much BS hype on these phones.


"After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing after all as wanting. It is not logical, but is often true."
– Spock, Star Trek, Season 2, Episode 1 (“Amok Time,” 1968)

 

[iPhaithful]

It's just the abrupt end to the attachment and familiarity you had with the old device, especially since it was something that you used everyday. Give it some time.

 

[jokerz126]

thinking about unloading 256gb 12 pro max at best buy for a 128gb 13 pro max....cost to upgrade is like $125...seems worth it in order to position for the iphone 14 upgrade?

 

[antisomnic]

There is nothing wrong or unhealthy about developing an emotional attachment (OP said it was not intense, not like a real person) to an object that you use constantly and is by your side everywhere you go. It didn't feel right handing my 11 pro max over on launch day, but it wasn't like I was gonna say "Never mind, I want it back!" and I don't regret my purchase AT ALL. But it does feel kind of weird to give away a possession that has literally been by my side everywhere I went for the last two years.

I hope that makes sense to the nay-sayers.

Maybe there is something wrong with people like us.

 

[Crazyj414]

Happy to saying mine is gone. I’m used to the phone and the heaviness. I’m even thinking about keeping it longer than a year but it’s too soon to decide that.

 

[Krypton Deer]

Ok I feel pretty stupid posting this, but bear with me. Does anyone else feel kinda sad/weird after upgrading their iPhone?

Just got my 13 Pro yesterday, and it replaced my XS Max which I had 3 years (longest I’ve ever kept a phone). I don’t know if it’s the fact that I kept that phone the longest and was so used to it. Or maybe it was that I didn’t try iOS 15 until I got my 13 Pro, and maybe because I got a new phone and new version of iOS all at once, it was too overwhelming, but I just keep feeling like, “this is not my phone.”

It’s stupid because I transferred over straight from my XS Max, so it moved everything over the exact same. And I know this is a tool, and I’m not someone who gets emotional attachments to objects either, but idk, I feel kinda sad and weird using this new phone. It doesn’t feel like it’s really my phone or for me. I’ve upgraded my phones many times in the past before and never had this feeling. It’s not that I have buyer’s remorse either.

Please tell me I’m not the only one and that I’m not going crazy. 😅

Say goodbye to your old phone and then sell it. That stops most of the buyer remorse instantly - turns out you’re only paying $500 to upgrade, not $1,200

 

[titoaida2078]

Omg. This is over dramatic lol.

 

[jcp007]

Nope. Absolutely nothing to do with FOMO. It's fun being an early adopter. First experienced it with BB/RIM and then Samsung before getting my iPhone 12 Pro Max which I have upgraded to the 13 Pro Max. Do your research and get comfortable with your purchase decision or wait. Nothing to feel weird about. At least you're thinking about your choice.

 

[rambo47]

I usually wait 2-3 product cycles before upgrading, but when I do I feel great! It's the excitement of Christmas morning from my youth plus the promise of new wowee zipadeedoodah tech features. I'm one of the strange ones I suppose for not forming nostalgic attachments to pieces of technology.

 

[Acronyc]

Phones today are so good that the yearly improvements aren’t noticeable to a lot of people. Perhaps that’s a reason. The core iPhone experience is going to be mostly the same on a 2020 SE and a 13 PM. I think about this every time I think about upgrading: what will actually be different that will be useful. Usually I don’t find a lot for myself. That’s why I don’t upgrade every year.

That said, I did a kind of backward upgrade this year. I wasn’t planning to upgrade from my 11 and was just going to get a new battery. Then I found a decent trade in deal for my 11 which lets me move from an 11 to last year’s 12 for $100. I was going to spend almost that much on a new battery.

The only thing I’m really looking forward to is the OLED screen. Otherwise I’m expecting the experience to be exactly the same.

 

[tomtattoo]

After two weeks with my new 13pro yesterday I prepared my 12 for selling. And yes, there it was: This! is my phone, not the new one. I´ve had the 6+ for three years but it was never "my" phone. The RED8 was my phone after one day.
Strange feelings are going on.

 

[macintoshmac]

I feel the same way. Tomorrow I’ll be returning my 13 Pro and going back to my iPhone X. I’m looking forward to it! The 13 Pro isn’t for me. I miss the lightweight, rounded, and comfortable iPhone X that I’ve had for 4 years now. The 13 Pro is just too bulky and brick-like. Not an enjoyable experience and I’m wondering why I even upgraded in the first place. 120hz and the cameras are cool but for me it’s not worth it.

Coming from an iPhone 8 to iPhone 12 mini, I understand. I use two devices, one iOS and one Android. The iOS device is an iPhone 8, the Android device is a OnePlus Nord2 5G.

Here’s what’s funny: I love the Nord2 over iPhone 8 and checking out the sizes online I was sure I should get the 12 Pro and not mini.

Went to Apple Store, saw the devices. Held the iPhone 12 Pro in hand. Immediately kept it back. The screen looked ridiculously large and I didn’t like it that way. Boxy edges made the device feel larger than dimensions would have suggested. Picked up the mini. Immediately felt that this is the device for me for next few years.

Again, I still love the OnePlus Nord2 size over iPhone 12 despite the OnePlus being larger. Why? The only thing I can think of is curved edges versus flat edges that make the 12 feel difficult in (my) hand and OnePlus easier to hold.

The same flat edges make the mini grippier to hold than the 8, and it is wonderful.

 

[macintoshmac]

If the new phone was free, it’s doubtful you’d feel any remorse.
Parting with $800-$1200 cash never feels good

You’re partly right - it doesn’t - because it doesn’t feel truly worth it over what we have already.

I’m sure we will feel much better spending the same money on something on our automobiles, because of the satisfaction derived. That satisfaction is missing in the minuscule increments Apple consciously upgrades their devices in, now.

This is Tim’s most significant change at Apple. Tiniest of incremental upgrades and maximum possible bottomline.

 

[macintoshmac]

I feel sad that my bank account is down.

Whether we laugh or not depends on the value by which it is down. 😁

 

[smoking monkey]

Ok I feel pretty stupid posting this, but bear with me. Does anyone else feel kinda sad/weird after upgrading their iPhone?

Just got my 13 Pro yesterday, and it replaced my XS Max which I had 3 years (longest I’ve ever kept a phone). I don’t know if it’s the fact that I kept that phone the longest and was so used to it. Or maybe it was that I didn’t try iOS 15 until I got my 13 Pro, and maybe because I got a new phone and new version of iOS all at once, it was too overwhelming, but I just keep feeling like, “this is not my phone.”

It’s stupid because I transferred over straight from my XS Max, so it moved everything over the exact same. And I know this is a tool, and I’m not someone who gets emotional attachments to objects either, but idk, I feel kinda sad and weird using this new phone. It doesn’t feel like it’s really my phone or for me. I’ve upgraded my phones many times in the past before and never had this feeling. It’s not that I have buyer’s remorse either.

Please tell me I’m not the only one and that I’m not going crazy. 😅

I also used it for 3 years and I was actually happy to get rid of it. XS Max is a solid phone that brought us a bigger screen over the X, but otherwise it's a pretty unremarkable phone with an average Intel modem in it. The cameras are solid with poor low light. The form is pretty much the same since the 6 although it was far more refined. Overall, I give the XS Max a 6.5 out of 10. I did enjoy the longer screen but missed the wider screen of my 6S+. Apart from the weight of the 13 Pro Max, it's a far superior phone

 

[macintoshmac]

I had what might be a similar feeling last year upgrading from my 11 pro to the 12 pro. Despite the design change and predictable camera improvements I found myself realizing that for the entire year that I owned the 11 pro I wasn’t once tempted or curious about another device. Made me realize that it really was the perfect phone.

For me, that device was the 8, purchased around the end of summer 2018.

3 years, and even today, I’m completely happy with the device. I did buy two iPhone 12 minis couple of days ago, though, and that was because I thought to replace father’s 7 with a new device. So why did I get two? Because I know my father wouldn’t have had it and would have tried to make me keep it. The price that I got them at (about USD 550 a piece) made me think “what the heck let’s get two and be done with!”

I know I will love the 12 mini, it’s so reminiscent of the 5 and 5s I loved, but the 8 has been a true rock and is still incredibly powerful for everything that I use these devices for.

It’s just that the 12 mini with it’s much better display will make reading and viewing more enjoyable for me and my pop, which is why I plopped down cash for two. I didn’t need to upgrade today, I would have bought a 13 mini next year. Took 12 minis today because father’s 7 had an earpiece issue that required servicing and I figured with the lowest ever pricing I’m getting today, let’s just get the new devices today and be done with for some years.

No regrets. Just thinking how I’m going to utilise this perfectly fine 8 along with the 12 mini, is all. Any suggestions, welcome.

 

[macintoshmac]

So you would miss your old broken heart in case of a heart transplant?

Wonder if they’d have the heart to miss the old heart.