My feeling is that there were bad leaks on launch and that they have gotten better on the maintenance releases but I stopped using my MacBook Pro with external monitors so I don't know of those problems still exist. I could hook it up again to external monitors to test it and plan to do so in the next couple of days but I decided to go with separate desktop and laptop platforms so I don't have to deal with the RAM issues.
Interestingly, it seems like some of the memory leak issues were backported to Big Sur as I find that memory usage grows there as well while it didn't on Big Sur prior to Monterey launch.
I am glad I got 32 GB of RAM - memory usage is about 14 GB with my stuff running and then it slowly grows to 22 GB and I reboot the system when it gets there.
If you could give it a go it would be interesting, thanks.
I do feel this a lethal combination of non native applications, poorly coded ones (electron web apps etc) and that the memory is shared between GPU cores and everything else.
It's early days and I wouldn't mind seeing if someone can reset their machine and do a fresh install to see if it clears the problem.
I think realistically as its early days its been missed that 32GB ram is the minimum for anyone doing serious work, 16GB for others but then those I put in 'average' could have an MBA not an MBP.
Day to Day I notice my memory usage hanging around 9GB with 1 4K monitor plugged in and I banished all non native AS apps.