Put in 32GB (I suggest 2x16GB sticks) and toss Apple's 8GB.
There are different opinions on RAM brand: I suggest Crucial if available, otherwise OWC or Timetec are both fine (IMO). Just make sure they say they are "made for Mac," as they then have lifetime guarantee to be compatible. Crucial make sticks some of which are for Mac some not. I don't know if there is really any difference between them, but better to get the ones they recommend for Mac.
Thanks Wilberforce ????.