mostly i have a hard time getting higher contrast without crushing blacks. there's not as much dynamic range with film and i think i have to just go of detail in blacks like i have with digital.
Been almost 30 years since I worked with B&W films. My approach back then was to do my metering on the deep shadows. Negs are the opposite of transparencies or digital, you have to capture the detail in the shadows in order to print it. Highlights can be burned in as needed.
For 4x5 my go to developer was 2-step D-23. You had to mix this yourself, if I recall I used sodium carbonate as the second bath (might have been borax?). The purpose of the two step was that the second bath assured that the shadows were fully developed while exhausting the developer in the highlight areas and thereby compressing the highlights to some degree. Usually I ended up printing on high contrast papers and was able to show both highlight and shadow detail nicely.
FWIW I am often quite happy letting shadows go black or almost black, I do not find that nearly as detracting as blocked up highlights. In the image above that was quite deliberate, it would have been easy enough to maintain the shadow detail but I preferred this version.