Thats where the proper saddle comes in. Saddles are a personal thing even more so with women. From what I understand women are more sensitive to saddle bar drop too. I'm not a woman so I an only repeat things I hear, but I do know your sensitive bits shouldn't be getting numb. If I were you I'd get my a$$ measured to, people no kidding love these a$$ measurers. Shorts shouldn't compensate for a bad fit and uncomfortable saddle they should compliment correct fit and saddle. This in my experience is the number one reason people stop riding bikes. They're uncomfortable and think they need special fruity colored tight clothes to be comfortable. I ride everyday if it's not raining to work, to get groceries, to get a beer. I own one jersey and one pair of shorts.
Well, my hands and legs get numb too.. that's from a medical thing, though.
The lady part numbness thing only happens during riding, so I don't think it's the medical issue coming into play.
Thanks a lot for the insight. Hopefully I can find somewhere here today.