I'm in the same boat. I can't seem to find the perfect case. All of the cases I like to use (because of the buttons) hurt my pinky finger. (I hold my phone cupped in my left hand with it resting on my pinky finger.) All of the cases that have the bottom covered hurt because the cut out for the charger is too sharp, and all of the cases that have the bottom open hurt because the bottom edge where the back of the case ends is sharp, so there's always a purple indentation on my pinky finger after some time. The cases that I dislike (because the buttons are hard to press) don't hurt my pinky finger. That's why I can't find the perfect case. Either I like the case and hurt my finger or dislike the case and keep my pinky finger happy.
I really like the Speck Presido Grip White/Blue but every single one I’ve ordered has been twisted/bent so the case doesn’t lie flat on the table. It rocks back and forth. I’ve gone through 9 of them. I have the white iPhone XS and Silver AW 4 with the cape cod blue case. Everything would match nicely but that damn case is twisted. I talked to Speck a few times because there has to be some kind of manufacturing defect. I’d love to find another white and blue case or clear and blue case that offers grip. That’s the problem I am in. Very frustrating and from what I’ve looked up there is no iPhone 11 Pro cases that have caught my eye either. I’m just extremely hard to please I guess.