I am glad I found this mammoth thread. A few months ago I bought the 16" i9 32GB 5500m, It is mainly used, especially these days, connected to my ultra wide LG38WK95C, which is a fantastic thunderbolt 3 monitor.
My main use case (which has pivoted slightly from when I bought the laptop thanks to the pandemic) is that I do a lot of online training delivery, Teams / Meet / Zoom meetings, and usually always have Miro or Mural running with screen sharing. I can have up to 25 people on a call with me for half a day or a full day. I also use Logic and iMovie every now and then.
I can just leave the laptop doing nothing, connected to the display, and the fans will ramp up for hours for no apparent reason, I check what's happening in Activity Monitor and there are no noteworthy processes that would cause this.
But most of all, when I am working, the fan noise is unbearable to the point it is distracting, and I have had people point it out to me on a Zoom call.
I am also having an issue where the laptop will randomly disconnected from the external display, numerous times, whilst on a Zoom or Meet call, meaning I cannot fully rely on it for work anymore and I am fearful every time I run a client session the this will happen and I will end up losing money (and face) as a result.
I don't have the time to troubleshoot these things ad infinitum, so I pulled the trigger on a 16GB Mac Mini, which should be with me in a couple of days. Once it is and I am all setup and tested, I am going to talk to Apple to see what my options are, I spent a HUGE amount of money on this laptop and I basically can't use it with a display, it also has AppleCare+, luckily.
Wondering if anyone else has the display connection issue or may know why it's happening? I tried using different ports but it seems to occur randomly despite the port, and usually when in a Zoom / Meet / Teams call.