WOW - it really is sad that Apple is ignoring their loyal customers
Apple is not ignoring you. Maybe you are ignoring the facts. Same heat pipe for CPU and dGPU, dGPUs will always be power hungry to deliver better performance than iGPU. dGPU uses external memory that also uses more power.
I have been saying this in the forums but some users still wait for a miracle from Apple. dGPU always like this since 2011. Some were hopping for better thermals with 16" but Apple took advantage of it to lower fan speed (previously idle around 2100, now 1800). This is why I am rocking a 15 iGPU 2015 machine.
I really like the size of the 16, maybe next gen will also feature a iGPU model. As it stands I will be happy with a 14" iGPU, more screen real estate and controlled thermals.
But, get the memo people! dGPU will always be like this, unless thermals are way better than they are now. On a desktop you get much more thermal headroom and can use dGPU without issue since you are away from it. On a laptop you are using the keyboard and the heat is noticeable. Desktop replacement in windows world are behemoth machines that are also noisy to keep thermals under control.
My take is if you need a dGPU stay away from laptops. Do heavy lifting on a desktop machine and use laptop for mobility. Stop asking thin and light laptops to do what a desktop can do and complain about heat and noise...