The idea of a ”gay only” state is wildly hypothetical, but still, I don’t think that would be true. The most gay-friendly cities (i.e.: the closest thing we have in the real world to a “gay only” state) are also those with the biggest Pride events."Gay joy" and "Pride" would not exist in a gay only State.
And this makes rational sense. Pride is two things — a protest against the societal/legal barriers that the LGBTQ+ community faces around the world, and also a celebration of the progress that has been made so far. There’s naturally some tension between these two aspects, as the progress isn’t uniform or universal. The most gay-friendly places are where we can celebrate Pride the most, and with the most safety, so you could argue that the protest side of things is less necessary there. But the celebrations are also a signal to people living in those places where things are the most difficult. i.e.: “Don’t give up hope, you can reach this level of progress one day too!”
This touches on the Pride wristbands and other merch too. Yes, living in London in 2024, I feel pretty safe as a gay guy. Which is great. But it’s also great that people who live in less gay-friendly places can look and see that there are places out there where LGBTQ+ people can live visibly, proudly, and without fear. Sure, Apple doesn’t advertise its Pride merch in Saudi Arabia, but that doesn’t mean that people there are blind to what Apple does in the rest of the world. It all helps.