...
Next time to avoid this unwanted firmware update you should continue the stage2 installer "macOS Installer" without OpenCore spoofing, just using -no_compat_check in nvram, in this case EFI firmware should not install .
...
That all makes sense except... the hang happened as I let it run into the stage 2 installer unattanded ... i.e. not using *any* spoofing, and must have been without even -no_compat_check (as that has to be reset by hand, and I didn't). i.e. in fact, stage 2 could not have actually started. So I think something in the stage 1 (?) preparation must have started to fiddle with my nvram/firmware already - maybe to prepare it for the firmware upgrade? - before ever getting into stage 2.