Well... I'm gonna be a bit of a hypocrite and I'm also going to try out the 13 again. I didn't really give it a proper go previously and sent it back along with the 13 Pro Max, the one that was definitely destroying my eyes.
I previously had no noticeable issues with the 12 Pro (and 11 Pro Max), so I'm hoping the standard 13 with its (supposed) 610Hz PWM and fixed refresh rate will be okay for me. One came up as available at Covent Garden, 256GB, so I went for it on an impulse.
I just love that pink and I would like to enjoy the OLED (without pain), cameras and battery life. It's also a bit smaller and lighter than the 11, too.
I intend to give it a good go and will certainly report back on my experience with the display!
I think one thing that's been muddying my personal experience with these phones is that I've been fighting a super persistent cold for weeks. My eyes feel a lot more sensitive and sore when I'm sick, so it might be exaggerating my symptoms somewhat. Only the 13 Pro Max for sure has quickly and noticeably caused eye trouble for me.