I hate that I never seem to have the same problems that everyone else has. I am enjoying Catalina on a Mid 2010 MBP (Thanks a billion DosDude!

) and everything was fine until... I tried to use the personal hotspot function on my iPhone and suddenly, not even messages on the MBP was working! Sign out, sign in, sign out, sign in.... Apparently, it is not enough to be on the same account, one has to be on the same Apple ID?! Somehow, music takes the Apple ID and Password and... Nothing! again and again and again! Ok, I can just play from the phone... The problems didn't end there but I think the idea is clear: one day, everything runs like a charm and then one day, everything goes bananas! So....
Why not just update to the latest release and see if Apple has fixed some of the problems and then you can just focus on working around what they haven't yet.... Only, now, there is stuff in the hard drive that I want to keep and downloading the latest version and installing erases everything so, ok, go to MacRumors and search around... Maybe in the wiki? no. Has anyone tried to just update directly from Apple? Did it work? Hot Spot? Phone call from Mac?
I'm open to suggestions but I really would like to avoid having to reinstall the entire OS every time there is an update if at all possible.