So I finally got my MMS working. Crazy work. I did the old version of iTunes and the loading of the old carrier files... then i tried to change these settings...
Those settings allowed me to have the MMS as well as the tethering and enabling and all that. But I was still not able to send or receive MMS messages...
So i then followed the instructions below...
I power cycled the phone and still it was not working. I then decided to go back into the Network Settings
Settings>General>Network>Cellular Data Network
Input the following information in the appropriate fields:
APN: wap.cingular
Username: [leave blank]
Password: [leave blank]
MMSC: [leave blank]
MMS Proxy: [leave blank]
MMS Max Message Size: [leave blank]
MMS UA Prof URL: [leave blank]
Once I changed those fields all back to blank i was able to both send and receive MMS messages...
Oh one more thing... the lady i talked to said she got a call like this yesterday... DO NOT let them contact APPLE or you will be **** outta luck because APPLE will tell them that they are not supporting 3.0 until next week when it is released to the public.
I removed all settings except for the APN and it still didn't work. As soon as I rebooted my phone the option to even send an MMS went away. ANd I haven't called tech support, but I'm pretty sure I don't have MMS opt out on my line. When I had an individual line, MMS opt out showed on my bill but when I converted to a family plan and got family texting (the other phone aren't iPhones) MMS Opt Out is no longer on my bill
UPDATE... phone was acting up yesterday so i had to power cycle. Once I did that, MMS completely disappeared from my phone. So i guess you have to put in the network settings to get the mms to appear, but then remove the settings to actually be able to send... i don't get it. If i didn't power cycle though i would have been fine. Retarded.
UPDATE 2... put these setting back in and power cycled... MMS returned and i was actually able to send a message this time. So I guess the settings do need to be there, i don't know. It keeps changing on me...